How To Love The Girl Who’s Scared You’re Going To Leave

There’s two ways this can go: (1) either she’s been there, done that, or (2) she’s never had someone like you before and thinks this is too good to be true.

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It might be something all too familiar to her. Love, and left. That’s what she was and what she thinks she still is.

She is so used to this pattern of destruction that she believes its only a matter of time that everything will go wrong the minute anything becomes so right. What goes up, must come down, and whenever her life falls, it comes back lower than where she started.

She’s scared you’re going to leave because she’s even more terrified of the way she’ll feel if when you do. She knows it will be messy — and that’s an understatement.

Love her in a way that makes her feel cared for. That’s makes her believe that even if things go wrong, you’ll find a way to make them right. That not everything is all perfect sunshine and roses, but she’ll be in your arms when they’re not.

Love her and make her know that you’re there. When she needs you, you’re there to listen to her. That she can speak her thoughts without being judged. That you’ll not always understand, but will definitely try.

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Or, she’s scared you’re going to leave because more often than not, her insecurities surround her like a life-consuming black cloud — that whispers things she thinks are true, and causes her to act in ways she never would. Her insecurities win the space in her head where happiness once grew and they take over. Letting her believe she’s not enough, that you’ll leave her for someone else eventually, someone who’s better for you, someone who’s better than her.

Love her in a way that accepts her insecurities. Don’t ever try to take them away, instead, try to quiet them down. Accept that sometimes, she will say things she doesn’t mean, or do things she wouldn’t ever intend to. Love her until she makes her insecurities fade away herself.

Love her and make her know that’s she’s enough. Say it again and again, and make her feel special everyday. Little things count. Let her know that she can’t be the only thing that matters to you, but she’s definitely at the top part of that important list. Love her in a way that shows how much she means to you.

Love her in a way that assures her that the only place you plan to be is by her side.

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3 Hidden Gems To Discover In Makati’s Poblacion Neighborhood

Yes, there are still places to explore in Makati’s own ‘Williamsburgos’. Poblacion is more than just the red light district. The neighborhood, just outside of the posh Rockwell Center, boasts a hodge-podge of culture, tastes, and experiences. My girlfriend and I frequent this part of the snobby financial district, because it is anything but. I love Makati, and I love even more that this part of town has glorious traffic on the weekends. It’s usually Car-maggedon the rest of the week.

This weekend, we stayed at the Element Boutique Hotel, Restaurant and Bar. 

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This place is just a tad bit pricier than our usual staycation places, and with the photos they have of it online, our expectations were fever pitch for this place. And at first glance, they did not disappoint.

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But the thing is with appearances (and I say this a lot), with the onset of Instagram and making everything look so ‘artisanal’ or ‘hipster’ even, a lot of restaurants and hotels are just that. Appearances. They forget that the word of mouth is still the best form of marketing, and sad to say, Element was one of those places. I couldn’t say much about the restaurant as it is on the very pricey side, but the hotel had nothing special about it (I mean, they didn’t even have coffee in the room for fuck’s sake!). This was sad, because I really wanted to like this place.

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As Element’s restaurant prices were obviously for the men and women with a more discriminating taste (meaning it was expensive as hell), we went out for a stroll to look for something to eat. We wanted something different, this was evident with my GF’s want for Chinese food. That rarely happens.

Lucky for us, we didn’t have to look long. Right down the street from Element was LSQ Chinese Home Cuisine. 

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It was so cool because it had all the makings of a legitimate Chinese restaurant. I loved it, and for an hour that we were there, we were instantly brought back to Hong Kong (the only China we’ve been to — so far.)

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In stark comparison to the feels the restaurant gave us, they served Northern Chinese & Sichuan cuisine. Not Hong Kong. The food was served timely, and they didn’t have soy sauce or calamansi for the dumplings we ordered. They only had black vinegar. It was so legit, but also feels kind of dirty, but that’s why it was fun. Seriously the best Chinese food out of Binondo. We ordered Beef and Kutchay Dumplings (💣💣💣💣 by itself,💣💣💣💣💣 when dipped in black vinegar!), Sweet and Sour Chicken, and Yang Chow.

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Rating:💣💣💣💣

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We met up with our friend, Christine, on the second night and went to Bucky’s. You might have seen them at your nearest Toby’s Estate, but they’re more than just brownies (that aren’t brownies, apparently). We had Beet Salad, Fried Chicken, and Baked Ziti with Ragu.

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I’m not a mashed potato kind of person, but the ones that came with the fried chicken, I could rave about (💣💣💣 bombs)! The Baked Ziti was the star of the show though. I’m lactose intolerant, but I couldn’t keep my chill with the Baked Ziti with Ragu (💣💣💣💣 bombs! Super must-try). The Beet Salad was also great, but I’m not a fan of beets, but I loved that this salad came with pistachios and goat cheese!

Rating: 💣💣💣.5 bombs!

Overall, the weekend was one for the books, we’d recommend to pull off a staycation in Poblacion. More than the hidden gems here, there’s so much more the neighborhood has to offer, and then some.

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5 Ways To Enjoy Baler If You Aren’t A Surfer

Don’t get me wrong. Surfing is still (one of) the best thing(s) to do in Baler. But aside from the usual, if you aren’t into the sport, you just want to explore the island of Luzon, or you’re craving for a roadtrip, Baler is the place to be.

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1. Its a good opportunity to bond with your crew. I mean, any kind of travel is, but with places as far off  (but not far enough to fly to) as Baler, it is awesome to pull off a roadtrip. The average travel time (give or take traffic hours) is 6 hours. Word of advice though: Have two designated drivers at the ready, and those who can maneuver the sharp turns when nearing the province of Aurora. You’ll see what I mean when you get there.

2. Visit the 600-Year Old Balete Tree. During the day, because legend has it that this tree is the favorite chill place of unearthly beings. But the cynic that I am, I thought, with this much tourist traffic visiting the tree, why would anyone (or any spirit/duwende/tikbalang/etc) want to live anywhere near it?

With 600 years under its belt, why wouldn’t you like to see it? (Spoiler: it’s huge.)

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3. I didn’t get to visit the falls, because 5,000 people were there. (Imagine all the bodily fluids mixing around, good lord.)

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But they say that the Dimatubo Falls is a wonder to behold. I guess on lean season, like this photo I grabbed from Google.

4. Eat! Baler is famous for Paco Salad and various kinds of seafood — and they all have that at the Beach House at Costa Pacifica.

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They also serve nice pugon pizzas, their tacos and cocktails aren’t half bad. The food is great, and it’s the best place for some #views.

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Costa Pacifica Address:
80 Buton St., Sitio Labasin, Sabang Beach,
Baler, Aurora, Philippines, 3200
Contact Numbers:
Telephone Number: +632 519 4249
Mobile Number: +63 917 844 8371
Email Address:
inquiry@costapacificabaler.com

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5. Stare into the ever-moving seas. Channel you’re inner favorite Moana character and stare at the edge of the water — Baler’s Sabang beach isn’t exactly the whitest, most ‘pristine’ in all of our country’s breath-taking beaches, but it isn’t because it’s fod lounging around and shit. It’s a surfing spot.

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Overall, it’s kind of a really nice beach to chill in, and to learn/try new things (i.e., surfing). The crowd you’ll find are mostly locals teaching surfing, surfers, and the hipster-nation. If you’re on the blog, you’ll most definitely want to go there now (I hope). Peace!

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13 Reasons Not To See ’13 Reasons Why’

13 Reasons Why, now available on Netflix, is based on a 2007 bestselling Young Adult novel by Jay Asher. It details the story of Hannah Baker, the ‘new girl’ at Liberty High, and her life — more specifically,  how it ended. My first honest thoughts were that this series had to be groundbreaking to pull something a story like this off. Here are thirteen reasons not to see 13 Reasons Why:

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  1. It isn’t the mystery that you’re used to. So if you aren’t into seeing a mystery unfolding as our (living) protagonist Clay Jensen listen to Hannah Baker’s reasons for killing herself, then don’t fucking see it. Leave it to the suckers for an actually good mystery.
  2. The characters are completely stereotypical. Jocks, mean popular girls, nerds, etc. Also, the characters completely change as the story progresses, so if you aren’t into seeing character development on characters your teen dramas, you will not enjoy this series. You’d be confused.
  3. Speaking of confusing: the way it handles time is dizzying. 13 Reasons Why takes place in the present, as Clay listens to the tapes, but also in the past at different points on the timeline before Hannah’s suicide. So there are many times that the show confuses the viewer. It may be confusing on purpose, but for what?! To embellish the mystery? To show how clever the whole series was shot? Meh.
  4. The music completely sucks. I mean, why use Joy Division’s ‘Love Will Tear Us Apart’ in a teen drama? There was a great opportunity to use the latest and greatest in pop music. It was supposed to be a great mix of new and old, but I guess they just missed the mark in making it feel more in the now.
  5. Because listening to a Hannah’s tapes is unreliable. I mean, shit, SURE LET’S LISTEN TO THE OVERLY DRAMATIC DEAD GIRL’S TAPES AND BELIEVE HER. Because she’s totally right about everything, right? Wrong. It doesn’t just make the story interesting but it also makes the characters more human. But who would want to see a show like that? I’d rather look at my own life.
  6. It’s not just a teenage drama. It’s a story about suicide. It’s something you don’t go for when you’re looking for simple, unsympathetic characters and a story that ultimately may be an important and profound one for many young people.
  7. The acting is meh. Langford (Hannah Baker) and Minnette (Clay Jensen) carry the show — you might get a little sick of them. Kate Walsh (Olivia Baker) is the biggest star of the series and if she doesn’t do it for us then meh.
  8. It’s not like most of the series on Netflix. There are awesome comedies, Marvel shows, and much of them are very good. Much better than this hodge-podge of mystery, teen angst and character drama.

I give up. The original form of this article was supposed to be dripping in (some type of) satirical sarcasm, but alas, I fail to do so. If you don’t get it by now (because of me being unable to get the point across), the reasons above point to why you should see 13 Reasons Why on Netflix. Here below are some of the actual weak points I’ve seen in the series:

  1. It’s not funny at all. I mean, I get it, it deals with a very serious issue. But even suicide stories have to be a little bit funny, right? Not even Hannah Baker had a life that could benefit from a bit of humor.
  2. Seriously, the 13 episodes (much like this article) is a total stretch. You’ll be noticing that some episodes (much like the points of this article) are flimsier than the rest. 10 Reasons Why would’ve been enough, but it would definitely be less poetic.
  3. The story sometimes just drifts away from reality a bit. Teen drama is one thing, it’s very real and the magnitude of drama could be enormous. But there are times that the show is just too much (this is coming from somebody who remembers being a high school teenager pretty well). Hannah’s elaborate tapes and map points was a little bit out-there for someone on the brink of ending her life. Also, the tapes being passed around among these students and not being seen or caught by any adult is far-fetched to me.
  4. I worry about the subject matter. As a manic-depressive myself, I worry about  potentially suicidal teens and copycat suicides. If you think about it, it’s a really satisfying way to exact revenge on people you think caused a decision as final as suicide. 13 Reasons Why is framed as a revenge story, and it’s awful. It is art, and I support the creators for tackling this issue, but it is still awful. I hope it has a positive impact on teens across the world.
  5. Mental illness isn’t in the focus in this show. Okay, not all suicides are caused by mental illness. But depression and the way it can lead to suicide is much more complicated than just how people impact one person’s life. Disturbingly, these reasons are given the boot in favor of mystery and conspiracy. That’s really good for TV, but a letdown for the harsh realities of teen suicide on the sidelines.

Verdict:

13 Reasons Why is something you should definitely watch. There will be a lot of things you probably won’t understand if you aren’t aware on depression and mental illness, and the consensus on its entire premise should be in a platform like Netflix (or TV) is definitely one to be debated on, but it is a well-written, beautifully acted (and shot) teen drama that will leave you thinking for days.

Begin Your Long-Awaited Journey to Watercolor Painting Here

Starting a new hobby in watercolor painting doesn’t need to be scary (or frustrating). A few simple supplies and techniques are all you need to get started. Last April 2, local watercolor artist Tin Bejar had a small private class, aptly named “Watercolor Sessions”. It was a gloomy Sunday noon for all of us – which was a little bit weird for the 2nd day of April in Manila. It was still sticky warm, though the cool environment of the class clearly made up for it.

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One-on-ones with Chi

Tin, who works in the IT industry, started in watercolor painting 3 years ago and made a comeback to the visual arts last year. A heavy smoker, she claims that her watercolor painting became a conduit to putting a full stop on her 7 years of smoking.

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Most of the participants are new to watercoloring (if not to visual art, as a whole) but being the laid-back person she naturally is, the daunting task of creating art became everything but that. I can’t tell you much of the details of the class, but with the patient demonstrations of strokes and the actual drill contests (with pretty cool prizes!), you wouldn’t think its Tin’s first class. Everything flowed pretty smoothly.

Triumphant.

You could follow Tin Bejar’s Instagram here for more of her “art shenanigans”.

Drogon, Rhaegal, and Viserion are now the size of jets and I am STOKED!

Us Game of Thrones fans never lack appreciation for Daenerys’ three dragons, but there always has been some diminishing returns in terms of their size. But leave it to the upcoming season 7 of the HBO hit to make them even bigger, despite the difficulty to portray them onscreen. They are now the size of commercial jets!

First time GOT director Matt Shankman shared with Entertainment Weekly, but without how (or where!) the Mother of Dragons might use her babies.

The dragons this year are the size of 747s. Drogon is the biggest of the bunch — his flame is 30-feet in diameter!

George R. R. Martin previously shared a photo of a full-grown Balerion the Black Dread, the dragon of Aegon the Conqueror, no less, looking about the same size as a small airplane. But from our experience, HBO goes their own way with size (remember the real size of the Iron Throne?).

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Game Of Thrones Season 7 is now set to air July 16, 2017 on HBO. Teaser below!

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The Kind of Girl You Should End Up With

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  • End up with the girl that let’s you know how much she appreciates how much of a superhero you are.
  • End up with the girl who shows you how much it means to her when you surprise her with creative gestures that makes her heart go wild.
  • End up with the girl that says one thing and means it.
  • End up with the girl that cares deeply for your emotion and sympathizes in your pain because she believes everyone’s feelings and thoughts are valid.
  • End up with the girl that calls your parents ‘Ma’am/Sir’ or ‘Tita/Tito’, and acknowledges them with utmost respect.
  • End up with the girl that is not going to pressure you into doing something you’re not entirely comfortable with.

A gal like this is rare, especially today when women have become more vain, and think too high of themselves in a world where girls never seem to grow up. Never let go of the girl that is still willing to show you her best even after Valentine’s Day. Someone who’s game to date you every week, and returns the favor sometimes by taking you out to romantic places for a change, so she could know and understand the core of your being.

  • End up with the girl that doesn’t only call when she needs something from you.
  • End up with the girl that doesn’t consider you as an afterthought when she’s done having fun, a second option when her first priority doesn’t work out, or the person she only remembers when she’s bored.
  • End up with the girl that doesn’t make you feel insecure, but brings out the best in you, one that sees your strength and abilities as admirable, not a threat.
  • End up with the girl that’s excited to celebrate every Valentine’s Day, birthday, anniversary, and every occasion with you.
  • End up with the girl that says she loves you, in the middle of the night, in her sexy sleepy voice.
  • End up with the girl that promises to be your one and only Valentine, now and forever. ❤

 

 

 

3 Things Not to Forget this 2017

If I may be allowed a moment of personal reflection – 2016 has almost completely sucked for me, mostly in the financial department – the company I worked for decided to close January, failing to start my own business at the first quarter, not finding a job on the second quarter, partnering up with the wrong people to start up a business on the third quarter, and finally setting up shop on the beginning of the fourth quarter. Here I am now. Spending a really nice two-week holiday at Hong Kong with my girlfriend, Chi. This is a big deal, finally being able to spend freely like this. I am nothing but thankful.

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Looking up from our apartment balcony in Sai Ying Pun

Ok, back to the article – The Hong Kong Special Administrative Region – a vibrant urban center, former British colony, major Southeast Asian port, and global financial hub. But for the local millenials of the Philippines, Hong Kong is the nearest Disneyland Resort,  and (sometimes) the cheaper venue to splurge-shop (see Fa Yuen Street and Temple Street Night Market).

We went on the road less travelled – alleyways with kiosks selling Cantonese fishballs, and noodle soups, and small knick-knacks we can bring home. Monasteries, temples – where people don’t flock, we visit.

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Chi, standing outside a noodle shop at Queen’s Road West at the Sheung Wan District

In the 15 days that we were here, I found that these things should never forgotten this year, and forever:

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The Ultimate Guide to Tombstone Fonts

You can live forever, but in case you don’t, here’s a few of the overly used tombstone fonts and what they say about you.

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Ah yes. Times New Roman. You may be the type that believes that technology will take over and be the cause of mankind’s utter destruction. You’re a classic, old soul (badum-tss) and you enjoy watching The Goonies, listening to Tears For Fears, and you probably go boxing on your free time when you’re not too busy playing sick chords on your electric guitar.

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You probably work in a large, local company at Ayala Avenue, working a middle management role where you have been complacent with steady bi-annual salary increases, multiple bonuses and your boss being away half the time.

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You are a stuck up old woman, divorced from her husband of 20 years with two children who may or may not like you very much. But you have a stellar career of 30+ years and enjoy traveling for work and meeting new people in posh events chuck full of important people.

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You probably didn’t choose your tombstone font, and your partner, friends and family didn’t care as much about it because they were completely grief-stricken in your passing. You were a middle child, people often think you are naturally independent and they would have never imagined you dead (or never gave you a place in their thoughts too much).

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You are photographer who wears black all the time and has nice, expensive clothes and don’t have to tell anyone how great you are at what you do. They just know.

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You are extremely organized, can be seen as a total bitch sometimes, but little do they know you would die (pun intended) for Ozzy Osbourne and the most recent fad in Pop Rock (because there’s literally nothing else to listen to).

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You have a lot of notebooks, and at the backs of those notebooks are a number of “different” signatures that all look the same. You like Hemingway, and people like to be around you when they want to do something new (aka boring).

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Really, Arial?! Okay, your nothing but a shell of a person. Probably started a few businesses in office equipment that failed. You’re really boring the shit outta me. Go fuck yourself.

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